Easier sometimes to do everything yourself. And help can seem unhelpful when it involves extra time and effort for the one being helped.

But we get a lopsided, and dangerous world when a few people insist on doing it all, and keep the hard to motivate masses out of the equation. Monopolies, dictatorships and undemocratic democracies are the ultimate outcomes of this in the wider world.

And at ground level we get miniature versions of the same. The sometimes well meaning little dictators of life who always know best.

“My band” instead of “Our band”.

We don’t have to let that happen. But it will if the rest of us don’t insist on taking responsibility for our own little piece of the equation.