Say Something!

Have you ever tried to stop reacting.

To the trigger, that sets you off ranting, or moaning, or shouting, or whining, or ……

But it can be confusing for the person at the other end of this dynamic. They were, consciously or sub-consciously, expecting you to rant, or moan….etc. That’s what you ALWAYS do.

”Say Something!”

So it’s not just about not reacting. It’s about reframing our whole way of reacting. Which might be the reason we don’t often move out of those ruts we’ve dug for ourselves.

It takes time and effort to see the other person, and learn a new way of communicating

Never-the-less, putting a stop to the usual reaction, is still a start of the process.

Especially if at the same time we don’t try to deny the emotion that is attempting to force our hand, but simply let it fade away, deprived of the oxygen of conflict.