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or The Other Way Round

We often talk about getting a change of perspective. To freshen things up. It’s a nice idea.

But how big a change? And how do we get it?

There are hundreds of ways of course. Visit or live in a different country. Learn a new skill. Take psychedelic drugs. Stand on your head.

Perhaps the most accessible, but hardest one of all is to sit in a room with someone we completely disagree with, drop everything we think, and try to see it from their perspective.

Being married can sometimes provide the perfect opportunities. It’s very easy to overlook that one.

It doesn’t mean we have to change our mind of course, once we’ve managed to acquire a new perspective. But it’s becoming increasingly clear to me (and again I’m preaching to myself, the great unconverted) that to include and embrace the existence of paradoxical, sometimes contradictory thinking in our own perspectives, is probably one of the most important skills we can learn to develop in today’s world.

It’s a toughie though, I must admit.

nb. probably sensible not to wait to be understood before we learn to understand.